And it’s not what record was No. 17 on the Top 40 Countdown on June 11, 1976. Casey Kasem had a long and, I’m guessing, prosperous career. But terrible things happened to him just before and after his death, in the form of a family dispute between his children and his second wife. I have no idea who was right or wrong, and it’s probably not relevant anyway. What should have happened in this family, as it should in many other families, is an understanding of what the “deal” was. Who was going to take care of Casey as he got older, how would the rest of the family interact with him, who was going to benefit from his estate after he was gone? This could have been covered in a series of family meetings, perhaps with some written guidelines. Maybe this happened and the parties just didn’t follow it, but it’s more often the case that families don’t discuss these issues, prefer not to think about them, and hope matters resolve themselves. Sometimes they do, but many times they don’t, which can result in disputes and, at least, hard feelings. We encourage families to meet, either among themselves or with the help of a facilitator, to talk through family issues. These might include the disposition  of a family business, how to even things up if one child is in a business and another is not, how assets will be distributed during the parents’ lives and afterwards, and whatever else might be a sticking point. The worst advice: do nothing during life and let the “kids” work it out.