There is the precious little comfort for a child whose family is going through a divorce. As parents, it is your job to make the transition as smooth as possible for your child. This can be difficult, especially when each parent engages an attorney to resolve key differences through litigation. However, there is another option – divorce mediation. Choosing mediation instead of litigation is one of the best ways to manage conflict and keep the process civil.
Mediation is by nature a more cooperative way to approach divorce proceedings. The mediator, typically an attorney with extensive litigation experience in divorce cases, facilitates productive discussion between you and your spouse by offering a neutral presence to help resolve your differences. The result is a tailored divorce arrangement that both parties agree on prior to its final acceptance by the court.
Litigation tends to be synonymous with fighting, and children are rarely spared from the negative effects. Mediation helps parents agree on a divorce settlement, the benefits of which are significant and include:
- improved short and long-term communication between parties;
- less uncertainty and animosity between parties;
- no traumatic court hearings;
- no need for a child to be called to testify; and
- significantly reduced time and money.
Beyond these benefits, a mutually agreed upon solution leads to healthier, happier, more emotionally stable parents, who are not jockeying for position and using a child to obtain it. Together, these facts make mediation a more desirable option and highlight its ability to ease the stress of divorce on children.
Successful conflict resolution skills are among the most important life lessons you will share with your child. Mediation enables you to teach by example. Choosing mediation as an alternative to litigation will make a difference in your child’s life now and in the future.